Ask yourself, are there times that you find you're not shortlisted on some compitition? What's your feeling at such moments? Disappointed, gloomy, and depressed? You may have tried to look back on the whole compition thing and make some analysis of your performance throughout the precedure. Well, your response is very natural and your analysis is all very necessary. But to help ourselves walking out of the temporary depression, I suggest that we divert our attention. 

There are ways to find an emotional outlet at such moments. Calling your family, having a nice talk with your mum and dad may help you very well. But don't try that if unfortunately your parents are always strict with your performance. Going out with your friends if you have parents falling into the category I've just mentioned. If these two methods are not helping, how about reading or listening to music, how about reading articles or blogs of your peers?

These methods not only help in diverting your attention, but also provide an incentive for you to look at things differently. Chances are you may discover that out there there're whole a lot more things for you to strive for. So instead of lamenting the failure, you just stand up and go forward. I say you must go forward. If you stop moving forward, that's really bad.